Recently I was in conversation with a young woman who's child googled something quite innocent only to be pulled into the dark recesses of the black hole and hideous sphere of the Internet. The child is far from a teenager.
Parent please don't wait to put a safe guard on your computers. If your child is using them for any amount at all the temptation is TOO GREAT and the availability of pornography etc is just a click away.
We cannot be ignorant any longer!
The money you spend on this safe guard is much cheaper than years of counsel and family strife.
Please make sure that your child is in your sight when on the computer and check the history of the computer often. Stay alert and be intentional and ask questions.
Pure eyes:
http://www.puresight.com/child-internet-safety2.html?gclid=CMa_mLqwva4CFYio4Aodmk4HuA
Action Alert
http://www.actionalert.com/landing4?rkg_id=c-318740790_h-e64de79e4932edf98e73952c49c40f81_t-1330319145&gclid=CJeF9YCxva4CFULe4
Family Life Today recommends:
http://www.familylife.com/site/apps/nlnet/content3.aspx?c=dnJHKLNnFoG&b=6580043&ct=11231607
Focus on the Family
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/protecting_your_family/preparing_your_child_for_the_online_world.aspx
and
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/topicinfo/Internet_Safety_-_Building_Character_and_Building_Walls.pdf
Safe Eyes
http://www.internetsafety.com/press-internet-safety-solution-safe-eyes.php
Blessings on you and yours!
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Thursday, February 23, 2012
Reinforce Your Marriage
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How to Avoid 11 "Great Marriage Killers"
Dr. Dobson's latest newsletter is now available online at drjamesdobson.org!
Earlier this month we enjoyed Valentine's Day, a day set aside for the celebration of romantic love. We hope you and your spouse relished this opportunity to affirm your undying affection and commitment. In his letter this month, Dr. Dobson flips the coin over and shares insight and great advice on how to avoid the "Great Marriage Killers."
We encourage you to spend a few moments to learn how to protect your sacred relationship from:
- Over-commitment and physical exhaustion.
- Excessive credit and conflict over how money will be spent.
- Selfishness.
- And more!
Simply click here to read and download this entire message.
http://links.myfamilytalk.
http://links.myfamilytalk.
How to Avoid 11 "Great Marriage Killers"
Dr. Dobson's latest newsletter is now available online at drjamesdobson.org!
Earlier this month we enjoyed Valentine's Day, a day set aside for the celebration of romantic love. We hope you and your spouse relished this opportunity to affirm your undying affection and commitment. In his letter this month, Dr. Dobson flips the coin over and shares insight and great advice on how to avoid the "Great Marriage Killers."
We encourage you to spend a few moments to learn how to protect your sacred relationship from:
- Over-commitment and physical exhaustion.
- Excessive credit and conflict over how money will be spent.
- Selfishness.
- And more!
Simply click here to read and download this entire message.
http://links.myfamilytalk.
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
5 Love Languages of Children
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/popups/media_player.aspx?LatestDaily=1
Please listen to this half hour long Focus on the Family broadcast and see what you can glean!
Blessings on your MOST IMPORTANT JOB IN THE WORLD!
Blessings!
Please listen to this half hour long Focus on the Family broadcast and see what you can glean!
Blessings on your MOST IMPORTANT JOB IN THE WORLD!
Blessings!
Thursday, February 16, 2012
10 ways to love your kids
I thought that this article sent by a friend was worth passing along
Blessings!
David Philobes is located in Phoenix. Originally from Egypt, he is pastoring an Arabic
Christian Church.
Blessings!
David Philobes is located in Phoenix. Originally from Egypt, he is pastoring an Arabic
Christian Church.
1) Eagerly, humbly submit to the Word of God.
When you sin in front of your children, confess it. When you assert your authority over them, your children should clearly see the authority that you are submitting to. Your submission to God is your qualification to teach them. Let them see it, and they will know that you aren’t a petty tyrant.
2) Don’t pigeonhole your children.
Seemingly harmless things like calling your children “the artistic one,” “the athletic one,” or “the loving one” can make your children feel like their value to you is tied up in one characteristic. It can further invite sibling rivalry and resentments. Moreover, sets you up to stop trying to learn about them, as you begin to interpret everything through that expectation and sets them up to think that that's the only part of them you appreciate.
3) Discipline biblically.
When you discipline, make sure it has a biblical category. A godly parent can't discipline for “being annoying,” “making a mess,” or “squirming.” Instead, look to correct disobeying, lying, or something that you can support with Scripture, Proverbs and Ephesians in particular. If there isn’t a biblical principle and name behind it, don’t discipline for it.
4) Set clear expectations.
Explain to your children in advance what you expect from them and what they can expect from you. Make sure they understand. This will greatly aid you in #3, as well as giving them the security of knowing what you want.
5) Recognize obedience.
Talk to your children when you aren’t correcting them. Talk about the things they do right. Tell them about specific things that you love about them. Let them know that you know them, that you think of them, and that you enjoy them.
6) Listen to the whole story first.
With little kids you actually might have to take some time to get the story out. Don’t try to hustle past your children in an effort to quickly discipline them. The discipline is for their benefit, not yours. Make sure that they understand and that they know you are interacting with them.
7) Honor your spouse in front of them.
Show love to each other in front of your children. Don't be short, snarky, or snide with each other in their presence (or out of it for that matter). Children need to see Mom and Dad as one. Parents in fellowship with each other is one of the most basic elements for a secure home.
8) Don’t change your behavior toward your children in public.
Don’t correct them for things just because someone is watching. Security for a child means knowing that their parent is for them, and that when one of them corrects the child, it is for his or her benefit, and not so that others will think the parents have it all together.
9) Don’t take your children’s sins as a personal insult.
Never discipline with a break in fellowship. Don’t be “mad” at your children. Be anxious to have things reconciled.
10) Forgive. For real.
If breaking the window has been forgiven, act like it. Forget it. Do not hold past incidents over your children, especially if you've told them you've forgiven them. Let it go all the way, every time, “as far as the east is from the west” (Psalm 103:12).
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
I Hate to be the Mean Parent
Oh well~
If you are doing it right you will be ~ OFTEN. It's just part of the job.
The fact is you know you are NOT being mean. Your children have the perception of a child and their understanding is that of immaturity.
I hear single moms say this often ~ They feel like everything is PARADISE for their children at the other parent's home. Lets think about that....do you really think so? Children don't tend to change that much between houses. So just know that it is not always as it "seems"
Anyway, it has nothing to do with that.
The TOTAL reason you discipline your children is so that they will become high functioning, responsible human beings. We want them to listen, know how to follow directions, come when called, learn how to complete a task, get along with each other, have manners, take care of their possessions, and the list could go on and on.
The only way to get them from A to Z is to mean business. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Sometimes the consequence is more than just a time out. Sometimes it has to be corporal. But the earlier you start the easier it will be. Remember my post of "nip it in the bud" I encourage you to look it up.
So Mom and/or Dad ~ take a deep breath and choose to day to be your "child's best friend" by being the parent who makes the hard decisions, the one who follows through, the one who has to miss things themselves because a child is serving an early bedtime. It will not last forever and there will be a day that you will be glad that you followed through and your children will "rise up and call you blessed!"
Blessings!
If you are doing it right you will be ~ OFTEN. It's just part of the job.
The fact is you know you are NOT being mean. Your children have the perception of a child and their understanding is that of immaturity.
I hear single moms say this often ~ They feel like everything is PARADISE for their children at the other parent's home. Lets think about that....do you really think so? Children don't tend to change that much between houses. So just know that it is not always as it "seems"
Anyway, it has nothing to do with that.
The TOTAL reason you discipline your children is so that they will become high functioning, responsible human beings. We want them to listen, know how to follow directions, come when called, learn how to complete a task, get along with each other, have manners, take care of their possessions, and the list could go on and on.
The only way to get them from A to Z is to mean business. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Sometimes the consequence is more than just a time out. Sometimes it has to be corporal. But the earlier you start the easier it will be. Remember my post of "nip it in the bud" I encourage you to look it up.
So Mom and/or Dad ~ take a deep breath and choose to day to be your "child's best friend" by being the parent who makes the hard decisions, the one who follows through, the one who has to miss things themselves because a child is serving an early bedtime. It will not last forever and there will be a day that you will be glad that you followed through and your children will "rise up and call you blessed!"
Blessings!
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
I caught just a few minutes of Dr. Phil the other night as I was cooking. It was a continuation of a dramatic saga of the "Dr Phil family" that is shown off and on over the past years. The young girl (now in her 20's and in a rehab) said of her Dad, "I just want him to tell me No"
Did you hear that parents?
Your children WANT you to tell them NO!
They cannot always do it themselves.
They are pulled and pushed, prodded and manipulated by their peers, school mates, television, music etc etc etc.
They are often too weak and or confused to make the right decision. We all know that from about 11 up they are just a MESS!!
Let's help them out!
Say No when you have to ~ Protect them ~ Let them know that you love them and will stop them when you have to. You are not here to be their friend ~ You are their PARENT. Make a difference in their life. They will thank you later
Blessings
Did you hear that parents?
Your children WANT you to tell them NO!
They cannot always do it themselves.
They are pulled and pushed, prodded and manipulated by their peers, school mates, television, music etc etc etc.
They are often too weak and or confused to make the right decision. We all know that from about 11 up they are just a MESS!!
Let's help them out!
Say No when you have to ~ Protect them ~ Let them know that you love them and will stop them when you have to. You are not here to be their friend ~ You are their PARENT. Make a difference in their life. They will thank you later
Blessings
Monday, February 13, 2012
Valentines Day ~
Do something special for the kids today.
You may be going out to dinner with your husband but spread a little love to the children as well.
Make some heart place mats out of construction paper
Heart shaped food, hamburger, bread , cookies
Buy some sweet tart hearts and share them while watching a movie
Have the kids write a love note to grandparents or neighbor or an elderly person.
Make a special dessert
If this is too short notice do it the next day ~ it is never too late.
Spread the love and it will come back to you!
Blessings!
You may be going out to dinner with your husband but spread a little love to the children as well.
Make some heart place mats out of construction paper
Heart shaped food, hamburger, bread , cookies
Buy some sweet tart hearts and share them while watching a movie
Have the kids write a love note to grandparents or neighbor or an elderly person.
Make a special dessert
If this is too short notice do it the next day ~ it is never too late.
Spread the love and it will come back to you!
Blessings!
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