Today in the bank I had an interesting talk with a young woman.
We were mentioning how the month was flying by and she commented that it was a heavy birthday month for her.
Lots of shopping to do.
As she listed some of her projects she said, "my cousin's 16th birthday is in a week and she wants a pair of diamond studs".........said so nonchalantly!!
After she finished I said ..."will you actually buy them for her??" I gave her an idea of a place to go and asked if she had priced them....she responded that they were not too expensive ~ only 3-400 dollars....
WAIT WHAT
Did she just say what I thought she did???
I asked if she was going to buy them and she said that she had asked her husband and he responded that "if that is what she wants that's what we will get her"~~
OK
so maybe I was born into the wrong family... or
Maybe my 60 years makes me think differently....
even this woman said she worries that the girl may lose them....
so some thoughts here....
what will she want at 18?
If I were the parent who could not afford such a gift would I feel "less" because I had been shown up by a mere relative?
Should we allow our children to make a list of wants that way too often turn into a list of "expects" which only lead to disappointment?
Do we give attachments to our gifts???? YOU better not lose these~~
(I suggested giving her cubic zirconia and telling her if she could show me them at 20 years old then I would give her the real thing!)
Will she want to show off?
Will she feel like she can really wear them?
Parents....think this through.... Personally I think that children often receive too much. We feel the pressure to make them happy and fulfill all their wishes. That is not our job. Our job is to love them and help them think and act correctly.
It would be an interesting round table discussion with the family don't you think?
Blessings!
Let me know how you fare.
