There are various times during our children's growing years when they press the boundaries...but never more than in the teenage years. I call this the "boundary dance". Picture that mime in the box as he tries to find his way out. Every square inch...bottom and ceiling, walls.. he searches, pushing, hoping to find loop holes, windows, unexpressed rules...anything for a way out!
Too often we just get worn down. We say "JUST GO" "I DONT CARE" "DONT BLAME ME" "ASK YOUR FATHER" "______________________"!!!
Parents...be ready when you see your child preparing for this dance. It is often accompanied by whining, dissatisfaction, irritability and/or perhaps anger.
Too often we just get worn down. We say "JUST GO" "I DONT CARE" "DONT BLAME ME" "ASK YOUR FATHER" "______________________"!!!
Parents...be ready when you see your child preparing for this dance. It is often accompanied by whining, dissatisfaction, irritability and/or perhaps anger.
Sometimes it presents itself as panic or they will push at the most inopportune times. Don't be caught off guard. Be rested...watch for the signs.
Explain, AHEAD OF TIME, THE RULES AND BOUNDARIES.
Stay calm and don't let them wear you down!!
Stand your ground.
A friend was over watching a movie...at 10pm she received a call from her teen.."mom, can we go over to _____ for a sleep over?" The mom had not met the parents. Again it was 10 at nite. (their lack of planning is not your problem) and no NOT EVERYONE is going!!!
Refuse guilt and say no to giving in. Keep your ground! Its mandatory!
While your kids dance remain still and constant. It tends to put them off balance!
Blessings
Marnie
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http://marniesparentingfamilyblog.blogspot.comA friend was over watching a movie...at 10pm she received a call from her teen.."mom, can we go over to _____ for a sleep over?" The mom had not met the parents. Again it was 10 at nite. (their lack of planning is not your problem) and no NOT EVERYONE is going!!!
Refuse guilt and say no to giving in. Keep your ground! Its mandatory!
While your kids dance remain still and constant. It tends to put them off balance!
Blessings
Marnie
You can see a back log of parenting skills on the blog page at
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