The Little Garbage Can

I spoke to a young mom today about her step son.  It was not a good situation.  He is 10 and causing so many problems.   As we talked I realized we so often just  want our child, husband, etc to just GET IT!  But it is like expecting them to speak French without ever taking a lesson!
We say it is common sense ...perhaps to the one who has it...but totally uncommon to those not raised with it.


I saw this little boy as a little garbage can.   Just like a new little bucket that we buy to place under our sink for scraps, this little boy comes into the world helpless and empty.  If he is raised (not) in a dysfunctional situation little bits of garbage are put into him over the years,   He is never listened to,  is always underfoot, can never do anything right, is punished and corrected over and over and over with never an encouraging word.  NO WONDER he is a problem!  He is full of the lack all around him and is only mirroring it and soon just trying to protect himself.


YOU on the other hand are the adult!  You are the one who needs to get a grip.  YOU can change the atmosphere in your home.  If you don't know how ~ find out,  call me, read a book or call a friend.  
But it IS YOU who must take the step to stopping the insanity!  


It CAN BE STOPPED and you can learn new techniques and ways to bring this little guy around and make your house a home.


Send me questions....I will answer!


Blessings!











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