Bullies

What would you do if your son went down the street to go see if kids could play- and those kids were beating on your kid (leaving marks on his face) and swearing at him calling him an f'in A. And you found out that in self defense, your kid tackled the kid and used a swear word back (but didn't use it successfully or have it make any kind of sense) but he came home all beat up.... what would you do


I read this on a facebook page of a friend.  
How sad, but we must remember bullies  have been around since the beginning of time.
 
Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior, which may manifest as abusive treatment, the use of force or coercion to affect others,^[2] particularly when habitual and involving an imbalance of power. It may involve verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed persistently towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability.^[3][4]The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target."A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people

Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal, and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation.


When this happened in my yard I would simply go out and deal with it.. I spoke to both of the children and rarely did I have to call a parent.  This situation above is different.  The children are out of the yard with no adult witnesses.  In this case I would have my husband go to the parents of the offender(s).  He should go in peace with the intention  to just let the parents know what has gone on.  After that  the real work begins as you take the TIME to talk it all through with your child.  We do not want to have children who walk the hallways or streets afraid.

NOW lets say that it is your child that is the bully.......DEAL WITH IT!  Nip it in the bud!  Strike hard and fast! Let you child know that under NO circumstance are they going to be allowed to pick on someone for ANY reason.  If need be bring in counsel.  ....Have your child apologize to the child and the parent and also have a punishment leveled at home as well.  Check in with the school to make sure  that your child is behaving.  Talk to the guidance counselor. 
This type of situation must not be ignored or overlooked.. Parents please do not turn your head the other way concerning either situation.
Let's teach our kids how to be kind and stick up for the underdog. 
This summer I got the American Girl's Movie "Charissa takes Courage."   It is excellent !!   I would recommend it to all young families using it as a spring board for a great discussion 
Blessings!